feat: add validate function

Shifts validation to `validate` function which gives the user more
control over when expensive validation operations take place.

For example we currently run multiple regex passes over IP addresses
when creating new multiaddrs which can cause CPU bottlenecks.

Author: achingbrain

package.json

@@ -171,6 +171,7 @@
     "@chainsafe/is-ip": "^2.0.1",
     "@chainsafe/netmask": "^2.0.0",
     "@multiformats/dns": "^1.0.3",
+    "abort-error": "^1.0.1",
     "multiformats": "^13.0.0",
     "uint8-varint": "^2.0.1",
     "uint8arrays": "^5.0.0"