quic: multiple quic updates, update ngtcp2 dependency

[jasnell]

Makes a number of updates in the quic impl

also, updates the ngtcp2 dependency and brings in the ngtcp2 example server and client to prepare to use it for building tests. DRAFT for now because I'll need to test building the examples on all the architectures.

I removed the test executables as it'll definitely require more refinement in the build to work on all the different architectures. Will move it to a separate PR

[nodejs-github-bot]

Review requested:

• @nodejs/gyp
• @nodejs/http2
• @nodejs/net
• @nodejs/security-wg

[nodejs-github-bot]

CI: https://ci.nodejs.org/job/node-test-pull-request/69231/

[nodejs-github-bot]

CI: https://ci.nodejs.org/job/node-test-pull-request/69232/

[codecov]

Codecov Report

❌ Patch coverage is 26.82927% with 90 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.
✅ Project coverage is 88.49%. Comparing base (7d0f6be) to head (fa74543).
⚠️ Report is 38 commits behind head on main.

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
src/quic/streams.cc	0.00%	42 Missing ⚠️
src/quic/session.cc	3.12%	31 Missing ⚠️
src/quic/transportparams.cc	70.73%	10 Missing and 2 partials ⚠️
src/quic/packet.cc	28.57%	5 Missing ⚠️

Additional details and impacted files

@@            Coverage Diff             @@
##             main   #59884      +/-   ##
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+ Coverage   88.28%   88.49%   +0.20%     
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  Files         701      702       +1     
  Lines      206790   206861      +71     
  Branches    39757    39896     +139     
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+ Hits       182569   183057     +488     
+ Misses      16243    15838     -405     
+ Partials     7978     7966      -12     

Files with missing lines	Coverage Δ
src/quic/bindingdata.h	33.33% <ø> (ø)
src/quic/defs.h	67.74% <ø> (ø)
src/quic/packet.h	33.33% <ø> (ø)
src/quic/session.h	43.75% <ø> (ø)
src/quic/streams.h	0.00% <ø> (ø)
src/quic/transportparams.h	88.88% <100.00%> (ø)
src/quic/packet.cc	38.62% <28.57%> (-0.68%)	⬇️
src/quic/transportparams.cc	38.94% <70.73%> (+0.97%)	⬆️
src/quic/session.cc	29.13% <3.12%> (+0.87%)	⬆️
src/quic/streams.cc	3.20% <0.00%> (-0.14%)	⬇️

... and 89 files with indirect coverage changes

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