ConfigRawParams: fix search slowdown

[robertlong13]

We unwittingly introduced a search slowdown in #3130. The auto column width is terribly optimized reruns any time a row's visibility is changed, and SuspendLayout isn't helping like I'd think it would.

To fix this, I have the auto width turn on and off. I changed the default column width mode for the entire data grid to AllCells, and changed the NotSet columns to None, and changed the AllCells columns to NotSet. Anywhere where SuspendLayout was being called, I added Params.AutoSizeColumnsMode = DataGridViewAutoSizeColumnsMode.None;, and restored the auto size wherever ResumeLayout was called (I actually implemented this in a helper function instead of copy/pasting that all 4 places).

We could also probably just go to fixed widths, but I'm happy enough with this approach now.

[IamPete1]

Just given this a try here, Search works again, Thanks!

[meee1]

i think this is why there where visible = false statement everywhere, as there is no layout performed while its not visible.

[robertlong13]

i think this is why there where visible = false statement everywhere, as there is no layout performed while its not visible.

The visible = false was only in processToScreen. If adding it to filterList fixes it, would you prefer that option to the one in this PR?

[meee1]

ive made some changes.
the issue with enabled it still renders, as enabled/disabled is a valid visual state, whereas visible doesnt try render at all.