upgrade ts-node to the latest version

[williamstein]

See #4237

We use ts-node caching VERY heavily, and I would say CoCalc massively uses it for halfway descent performance. Without caching every single project startup (in cc-in-cc dev mode) requires compiling every single ts file and will take about one minute (every single time!). Probably a lot of other things we build are much slower. Also, all kucalc manage, hub, etc., services will start up MUCH more slowly.

ts-node completely eliminated caching support, due to a problem with how hashes are computed for dependent files, which isn't an issue for our Docker images (I hope): TypeStrong/ts-node#672

The current behavior of ts-node is just to silently ignore requesting to use caching, e.g., where we write

require('ts-node').register({ cacheDirectory:... })

with current ts-node it just doesn't work at all. So that's not so good.

Probably the right solution is to set this TS_NODE_TRANSPILE_ONLY environment variable for all containers where we run typescript code in production. For development, I don't know what we should do for projects when doing cc-in-cc dev -- do we want to have a special way to run them that doesn't just strip the typescript, but by default we do strip the typescript (so startup time is a second or two instead of a minute or two?).